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Aspergers Driver

AnointedOne

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Knowing people in this area they will start yelling, and ppl with Aspergers are sensitive to load noises. Sometimes i jump when its quiet and they start talking loud out of the blue.
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You are brilliant!
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How does this sound? Does it sound right? Not mean? Welcoming? Just informative?
It sounds great, but only 5% to 10% of paxs bother to read our driver profiles. Just to give you an idea, 95% of my paxs start the conversation like so how long have you been driving for uber? How many trips have you done so far? and I am thinking dude it clearly says on my profile how long I have been driving and how many trips I have done so far :o-o:.

I agree with @Uber's Guber just turn on "I am Deaf" feature, I understand you are not deaf but it would avoid unnecessary discomfort.

Good luck!
 

MHR

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Moderator
On a serious note, both my step sons have Aspergers, but they refer to themselves as 'high functioning autistic". Sitting here at my desk just thinking about either one of them driving Uber is hard.. For example ___ Hey driver, what time is it ... it's 1:27 and 34 seconds ..
I laughed at your post because this is my “high functioning autistic” son to a tee.

I agree with @Uber's Guber just turn on "I am Deaf" feature, I understand you are not deaf but it would avoid unnecessary discomfort.
The post I quoted above yours shows why (more than likely) he won’t try the “I am deaf” feature.

In my son’s world there is no gray area. His world is black and white, there’s no fibbing, stretching or massaging the truth. Our OP is not deaf therefore turning on that feature is not okay.

I don’t speak for OP but I know that’s how it works in my son’s world.
 

AnointedOne

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I laughed at your post because this is my “high functioning autistic” son to a tee.


The post I quoted above yours shows why (more than likely) he won’t try the “I am deaf” feature.

In my son’s world there is no gray area. His world is black and white, there’s no fibbing, stretching or massaging the truth. Our OP is not deaf therefore turning on that feature is not okay.

I don’t speak for OP but I know that’s how it works in my son’s world.
I have worked with several autistic people in the past and I understand what you are saying. I was just trying to help my fellow uber driver with a simple trick to avoid those dumb questions from some paxs who don't know what Asperger is and can't even spell it.
 

waldowainthrop

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I also want to add about signs and talking with people about autism or any other issue. “Educating” people in a rideshare context is nearly impossible. Act like a decent person and do what you can to do the gig and that’s almost always enough.

You don’t need to advocate for yourself and your own identity and life experience. A lot of passengers have their own deal and don’t care about any of this stuff as long as the ride is safe and convenient. Meet people halfway and a lot of them will meet you halfway. If people don’t get you, forget them, or as @mch put it less delicately “screw em”.
 

Trafficat

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I'm not so good with social communication. A lot of people, one of my closest friends, and multiple pax have told me they think I might be "on the spectrum" but I don't know and I don't really care. I think it would upset people to tell them you think you have some disorder, and it might even scare them into thinking it is unsafe to ride with you. I think it is probably best to try and pretend as much as possible that you are normal. So you upset some people when you don't understand them, but what is your driver rating? As long as it is good enough maybe what you are doing right now is okay. I quite often do not find jokes funny. If I *think* a person is trying to make a joke, I try to make a chuckling noise.

The good thing with Uber is you don't have to see any of these passengers ever again. When I worked at hotels and casinos, for the most part I could just stay in one place so anyone coming to talk to me had to come to me. But at my last job I was a mechanic at a large factory. I loved the work, but I hated how you had to walk around the building and you would walk past coworkers. I liked these guys and gals who were my coworkers. At first I liked walking past them, I'd just wave and smile. But for some reason something changed. All of the sudden nobody was waving back or smiling back. Even people who I had talked to a lot in the past and thought of as friends and not just coworkers. It's like I had overdone it. I was afraid I was going to get sexual harassment complaints so I began to make wide paths to avoid walking near anyone I knew and avoid eye contact if I did walk near, which seemed to at least make people less bothered. Company meetings were terrible. We'd sit or stand waiting 15 minutes for the speaker to show up. Everyone was drinking coffee and talking to each other. What was I doing? I was struggling through 15 minutes of torture. I can't talk to them without bothering them. Do I stare at a fixed point? I'd do that and people wouldn't think I was bothering them but then people would ask me, disingenuously, if something is wrong. Do I pretend to fall asleep somewhere? That was my favorite choice, but only worked if I was sitting at a table.
 

CStarzzSelect

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I'm not so good with social communication. A lot of people, one of my closest friends, and multiple pax have told me they think I might be "on the spectrum" but I don't know and I don't really care. I think it would upset people to tell them you think you have some disorder, and it might even scare them into thinking it is unsafe to ride with you. I think it is probably best to try and pretend as much as possible that you are normal. So you upset some people when you don't understand them, but what is your driver rating? As long as it is good enough maybe what you are doing right now is okay. I quite often do not find jokes funny. If I *think* a person is trying to make a joke, I try to make a chuckling noise.

The good thing with Uber is you don't have to see any of these passengers ever again. When I worked at hotels and casinos, for the most part I could just stay in one place so anyone coming to talk to me had to come to me. But at my last job I was a mechanic at a large factory. I loved the work, but I hated how you had to walk around the building and you would walk past coworkers. I liked these guys and gals who were my coworkers. At first I liked walking past them, I'd just wave and smile. But for some reason something changed. All of the sudden nobody was waving back or smiling back. Even people who I had talked to a lot in the past and thought of as friends and not just coworkers. It's like I had overdone it. I was afraid I was going to get sexual harassment complaints so I began to make wide paths to avoid walking near anyone I knew and avoid eye contact if I did walk near, which seemed to at least make people less bothered. Company meetings were terrible. We'd sit or stand waiting 15 minutes for the speaker to show up. Everyone was drinking coffee and talking to each other. What was I doing? I was struggling through 15 minutes of torture. I can't talk to them without bothering them. Do I stare at a fixed point? I'd do that and people wouldn't think I was bothering them but then people would ask me, disingenuously, if something is wrong. Do I pretend to fall asleep somewhere? That was my favorite choice, but only worked if I was sitting at a table.
I think my rating is pretty good, I just get frustrated.
 

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tohunt4me

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but I’m not Deaf.
YOU STATED YOU ARE DEAF TO SARCASM & INUENDO.
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Knowing people in this area they will start yelling, and ppl with Aspergers are sensitive to load noises. Sometimes i jump when its quiet and they start talking loud out of the blue.
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O NO !

THEY WOULD TAKE TURNS TESTING YOUR SYMPTOMS.

THE LESS YOU GIVE PAX TO USE AGAINST YOU
THE BETTER !
 

CStarzzSelect

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YOU STATED YOU ARE DEAF TO SARCASM & INUENDO.
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O NO !

THEY WOULD TAKE TURNS TESTING YOUR SYMPTOMS.

THE LESS YOU GIVE PAX TO USE AGAINST YOU
THE BETTER !

Are pax really that rude and mean to test me.....like that sounds like I'd be a zoo for fun, so people could poke at me, and make me cry on purpose.
 

tohunt4me

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Are pax really that rude and mean to test me.....like that sounds like I'd be a zoo for fun, so people could poke at me, and make me cry on purpose.
DONT DRIVE COLLEGE BAR CROWDS !

THE YOUNG ELITE INTOXICATED.

WHO KNOW NOTHING OF THE REAL WORLD.

THEY WILL SHRED YOUR ENTRAILS FOR SPORT.
 

Trafficat

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Are pax really that rude and mean to test me.....like that sounds like I'd be a zoo for fun, so people could poke at me, and make me cry on purpose.
I think most likely. Why not give it a try for a week and see what responses you get? Maybe it could be good, I personally think it won't be received well. Most pax probably do not realize there is anything wrong with you if you are rated 4.95.

I removed all "interesting facts" from my profile because it seems like everything I post there, no matter how innocuous, leads to resentment by certain paxholes. For the longest time I had it written in my profile that I was "from mars" but I got tired of paxholes lecturing me about not taking my job seriously.

But what do I know, my rating fluctuates between 4.89 and 4.90. I should be taking advice from you, not the other way around.
 

tohunt4me

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I think most likely. Why not give it a try for a week and see what responses you get? Maybe it could be good, I personally think it won't be received well. Most pax probably do not realize there is anything wrong with you if you are rated 4.95.

I removed all "interesting facts" from my profile because it seems like everything I post there, no matter how innocuous, leads to resentment by certain paxholes. For the longest time I had it written in my profile that I was "from mars" but I got tired of paxholes lecturing me about not taking my job seriously.

But what do I know, my rating fluctuates between 4.89 and 4.90. I should be taking advice from you, not the other way around.
You got " Professionalism" marks for being from Mars ?

I got " Professionalism" for bragging about how Pizza was Better due to tips.
Also got more tips.

They should not ask
If they fault you for Honest Answers !
 

peteyvavs

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I don't drive anywhere but the airport arrivals. Folks are usually in the car with me for an hour.
No uber here does the college crowd, because that crowd is known to try and get a free ride, so hey call uber and get us deactivated just to get their money back.
I’ve had college students when I drove and they were the worst pax’s, the self absorbed little bastards would expect you to drive them through drive through McD and get pissed if you told them no. I wouldn’t recommend driving anywhere near a college.
 

Wolfgang Faust

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I'm not so good with social communication. A lot of people, one of my closest friends, and multiple pax have told me they think I might be "on the spectrum" but I don't know and I don't really care. I think it would upset people to tell them you think you have some disorder, and it might even scare them into thinking it is unsafe to ride with you. I think it is probably best to try and pretend as much as possible that you are normal. So you upset some people when you don't understand them, but what is your driver rating? As long as it is good enough maybe what you are doing right now is okay. I quite often do not find jokes funny. If I *think* a person is trying to make a joke, I try to make a chuckling noise.

The good thing with Uber is you don't have to see any of these passengers ever again. When I worked at hotels and casinos, for the most part I could just stay in one place so anyone coming to talk to me had to come to me. But at my last job I was a mechanic at a large factory. I loved the work, but I hated how you had to walk around the building and you would walk past coworkers. I liked these guys and gals who were my coworkers. At first I liked walking past them, I'd just wave and smile. But for some reason something changed. All of the sudden nobody was waving back or smiling back. Even people who I had talked to a lot in the past and thought of as friends and not just coworkers. It's like I had overdone it. I was afraid I was going to get sexual harassment complaints so I began to make wide paths to avoid walking near anyone I knew and avoid eye contact if I did walk near, which seemed to at least make people less bothered. Company meetings were terrible. We'd sit or stand waiting 15 minutes for the speaker to show up. Everyone was drinking coffee and talking to each other. What was I doing? I was struggling through 15 minutes of torture. I can't talk to them without bothering them. Do I stare at a fixed point? I'd do that and people wouldn't think I was bothering them but then people would ask me, disingenuously, if something is wrong. Do I pretend to fall asleep somewhere? That was my favorite choice, but only worked if I was sitting at a table.
Great post.
When in doubt, nod your head and grin.

Friend of mine has Asperger's.
Says totally inappropriate stuff in response to questions. Fascinating condition, he is also brilliant, a patented inventor- multimillionaire.

Nobody ever says anything because he is wealthy.
 
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Dammit Mazzacane

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Do not tell passengers you have Asperger's.

I suggest not bringing this up at all to passengers. One reason is because some passengers will not know what Asperger's is, and because of this they may feel uncomfortable. It is socially uncomfortable for both driver and passenger to try to explain it.

People assume many things about autism. Some associate autism with mental deficiencies.

If there is a social faux pas, possibly consider apologizing and saying you didn't pick up on the information. They may presume you lack common sense, but that comes with the territory.

If a passenger gets upset with you because of a social faux pas or mistake, you could inform them you have Asperger's to defuse the situation. Only do so if an error occurs, though.
 

Wolfgang Faust

Well-Known Member
Do not tell passengers you have Asperger's.

I suggest not bringing this up at all to passengers. One reason is because some passengers will not know what Asperger's is, and because of this they may feel uncomfortable. It is socially uncomfortable for both driver and passenger to try to explain it.

People assume many things about autism. Some associate autism with mental deficiencies.

If there is a social faux pas, possibly consider apologizing and saying you didn't pick up on the information. They may presume you lack common sense, but that comes with the territory.

If a passenger gets upset with you because of a social faux pas or mistake, you could inform them you have Asperger's to defuse the situation. Only do so if an error occurs, though.
Yes.
Idiots may think it is a communicable disease.
 

Dammit Mazzacane

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Saying you have bad hearing is better.
People with Asperger's generally are terrible liars. Suggest not suggesting the driver to concoct a lie.
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The mindset is a very linear, very literal mindset. Disorder causes distress.

Jim Parsons' character Sheldon Cooper might represent someone with Asperger's. Or Moss from IT Crowd.
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Good idea. Recommend copyedit: I have Aspergers. This is when you can't see ............ things you say may be misinterpreted to someone....... hard time expressing ......
 
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